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There are reasons why you engage in self-punishing behavior

Why You’re Still So Upset About Being Ghosted

November 3, 2025 / By Nina Amir / Leave a Comment

Don’t think you’re crazy if you feel upset about being ghosted. Ghosting—when someone suddenly cuts off all communication without explanation—tends to stir up intense feelings, even if the relationship wasn’t long or especially close. In fact, the distress this experience causes is tied to several well-documented psychological mechanisms. Ghosting isn’t painful because of the silence alone. […]

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8 Reasons Why You Punish Yourself

October 20, 2025 / By Nina Amir / Leave a Comment

Do you engage in critical self-talk, unhealthy habits, addictions, or even refusal to go after your dreams? Anytime you engage in behaviors directed at yourself that are counter-productive, hurtful, or even abusive, you punish yourself. Maybe you tend to punish yourself with negative self-talk. You tell yourself things like: “I’m stupid.” “I’m ugly.” “I’m unlovable.”

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Why You Need to Stop Punishing Yourself

October 13, 2025 / By Nina Amir / Leave a Comment

Do you punish yourself? You may not even realize you do so. But if you are your own harshest critic, you likely engage in self-punishment. Self-punishment shows up as demeaning self-talk, negative thoughts about yourself, self-blame, and repetitive stories about your failures, faults, or mistakes. It also can involve overeating, addictions, or a lack of

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You can reprogram your brain for courage and confidence

7 Ways to Overcome Fear and Develop Confidence

October 6, 2025 / By Nina Amir / Leave a Comment

Fear is a natural and instinctual brain-based response designed to protect you from physical harm, like the attack of a mountain lion. Unfortunately, the brain also perceives any change as a physical threat—even a different haircut, a new habit, or an investment in a personal growth program. That’s when fear becomes a barrier preventing you

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Why you receive desires you don't think you asked for

Your Desire Was Delivered But You Want to Exchange It

September 22, 2025 / By Nina Amir / 1 Comment

Sometimes you voice a desire, but when it is delivered, you want to exchange or return it. Or you want to reject the fulfilled desire, because it arrived at what you deem an “inopportune” time. And then there are instances when you don’t realize you’ve voiced a desire, and yet it is delivered to your

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How To Get An ROI That Impacts Your Entire Life

September 15, 2025 / By Nina Amir / Leave a Comment

People worldwide invest vast amounts of money in their personal and spiritual growth. That’s why the global personal development market is constantly growing. In fact, it was estimated to be a $48.4 billion industry in 2024 and is projected to reach $67.21 billion by 2030. Yet many people hesitate to invest big bucks in themselves because

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Change your old stories about yourself to take on a new identity

Stop Being The Person You Claim To Be

August 25, 2025 / By Nina Amir / Leave a Comment

You constantly tell stories about who you are. Every day, you share your beliefs about your identity by explaining why you are the way you are. And most of these stories are negative and shine a light on what you likely consider personality flaws. In fact, you often tell these identity stories as a way

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You are a creator. You can recreate your life.

How To Recreate Your Life

August 18, 2025 / By Nina Amir / Leave a Comment

If you don’t like your life, no problem. You created it, which means you can recreate it. You are a creator. You create constantly with your thoughts and actions. If you don’t like what you have created—your job, financial status, relationship, health, or living situation, create a new one you like better. You are a

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How to Know When to Create What you Desire

August 11, 2025 / By Nina Amir / Leave a Comment

Have you ever wondered, “Is now the right time to create what I want?” Maybe you want to launch a business, change jobs, write a book, get a divorce, have a child, or buy a house. How do you know when to begin going for your dream? That question can keep you stuck for days,

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The #1 Reason You Fear Success More than Failure

July 28, 2025 / By Nina Amir / Leave a Comment

It’s common to assume people don’t try to succeed because they are afraid of failure. Yet, more people fear success, which is why they don’t try to achieve their goals or realize their dreams. Fearing success more than failure seems counterintuitive. After all, we are taught from an early age to pursue success—whatever that looks

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How To Stop Waiting And Finally Grant Yourself Permission

July 14, 2025 / By Nina Amir / Leave a Comment

Are you waiting for permission to follow your dreams, do your life’s work, follow your intuition, or go for your goals? That’s a common habit that can hold you back from living your best life. You might think you need permission from your parents, your spouse, your children, or your boss. You may believe the

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Why It’s Better to Set Boundaries than Give Ultimatums

July 7, 2025 / By Nina Amir / Leave a Comment

Setting boundaries is considered an important—if not essential—positive self-care exercise. Yet, some people perceive boundaries as ultimatums or demands with negative consequences. But boundaries and ultimatums are different, and it’s better to set boundaries than give ultimatums. I recall finally gathering the courage to set a few boundaries with my husband. Our marriage was struggling

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