When you think about “creating” something, you probably imagine a painting, a sculpture, a manuscript, a knitted scarf, or a wood carving. However, every day you create all sort of intangible things, like your feelings and experiences. In fact, to a great extent you create your reality.
It’s easy to live life in response to what goes on around you or what happens to you. You may feel depressed, angry, happy, sad, excited, peaceful, grateful, fulfilled, or disappointed because of your current situation. But you can choose to feel something else. You can decide to create a different experience and the reality you desire.
Is Life Creating Your Experience?
Recently, a friend of mine told me she was unhappy. She had a lot of good things happening in her life, and she would feel excited about opportunities as they presented themselves, but then she would “crash” when life just went back to normal the next day. Or she would expect a work situation to be exciting only to discover it wasn’t; it was just like any other day at her job.
I thought about her situation and realized that she was allowing her joy and excitement to be reliant on outside elements. If you rely on the good things that happen in your life to make you happy and to bring excitement into your life, you don’t create these emotions from within. And you always will feel let down when a situation doesn’t seem to meet your expectations or in some way alter your reality.
Good things happen to most of us, such as being offered a role in a play, getting a promotion, getting engaged, or producing a bestselling book, but for the most part we remain the same, our life stays the same.
Are you Creating Your Life Experience?
The only way to change the sense of letdown when you return to “real life” or “the grind” after an experience that does, in fact, help you feel excited and joyous, is to realize it’s up to you to create the excitement and joy from within—no matter what is happening in your life. That means focusing on creation of the experience you desire every day, every hour, every moment. Create the joy and excitement in everything you do and in every experience you have no matter how ordinary. Be a joyous and excited person.
Bestselling author Brendon Bouchard talks about generating the experience you want, like a power plant. He says, “A power plant doesn’t have energy, it generates it.” In the same way, you must generate the experiences and emotions you want to have.
I think of it like being a potter. You must mold every moment as if you and your life are a lump of clay. Make it into what you want it to be. Create the experience you want. Keep that wheel turning. And if things aren’t working out the way you want–you don’t feel the way you like–smush that piece of clay back into a lump and start again. Get that wheel moving, and start molding. Create the experience you desire.
Mold Your Attitude
Imagine the clay is your attitude, or mindset. This is what determines your experience from moment to moment. If you let the potters’ wheel stop, the clay will just sit there in a lump, or in whatever form you left it. It will have no ability to be anything other than what it is. When you start the wheel turning and set your hands to the clay, it begins to transform. You create energy, momentum that allows you to create something different. In this case, a different mindset.
When you decide to be joyous or to feel excited, you mold your experiences into ones that resonate with these emotions.
