My husband watched my daughter walk by a group of boys today after a swim meet. She had gotten dressed for a dance at school and was wearing a short skirt and a bright red top with bright red pumps. One of the boys watched her walk by and asked the other boys, “Who’s that?” In four years, he’d never noticed her before.
Actually, my daughter managed to go through three years of high school being fairly invisible. She kind of liked it that way much of the time. This year she took off her “invisibility cape” and started doing things to get noticed. She changed her style of clothing. She put on make up. She joined some school activities. She became more outgoing. She participated in the school musical. All these things made her get noticed.
What she doesn’t realize is that she also changed her energy. Her invisibility cloak extended to how she put herself out into the world energetically, not just with her clothing and activities. When she began to energetically want to get noticed, she did.
I find that I can be as invisible as I’d like to be. I can sit in a coffee shop where I want to do some work and have no one talk to me or pay any attention to me. I put up an energetic shield, if you will, that says, “Leave me alone.” When I go to a conference, however, I want to be the opposite of invisible. I want people to see me and to approach me. I project me energy outward. I smile. I also wear things and do things that definitely draw more attention (in a good way).
Someone just told my husband, who is sitting next to me, that he is in an invisible mode. She didn’t see him sitting next to me. He is wearing black and grey. He is hunched over his computer. I don’t really think he wanted to talk to anyone. She said the fact that his energy is in the invisible mode means he is going through a transition. Maybe we don’t want to be seen when we need to go inward and work on ourselves, when we need to create a change within ourselves. Maybe we need to be invisible, like a seed underground gestating and getting ready to break though the soil before we come out and show the world our new greenery and flowers.
My daughter definitely came out with new flowers this year. And she got noticed. She continues to get noticed.
What gets you noticed? Do you choose to be invisible and for what reasons?
