“I’m stuck.” How many times have you said those words?
Maybe you said:
- I’m stuck in my marriage.
- I’m stuck in my job.
- I’m stuck at my current weight.
- I’m stuck with this health condition.
- I’m stuck on this project.
- I’m stuck…just stuck.
Heres’ the truth of the matter: You aren’t stuck. You aren’t taking action.
As long as you take no action toward creating a different reality or situation, you will feel stuck in the current one. But the fact is, it’s only your inaction that makes you feel that way. Action toward something new and better will not only make you feel unstuck but break you out of the stuck place you think you are in right now.
The Stuck Excuse
I’ve been feeling pretty stuck in a few areas of my life. I feel stuck in a relationship—seemingly unable to change it for the better or to change how I feel in and about that relationship.
I’ve been feeling stuck in my business. I spend a lot of time doing things that don’t bring in money or that are supposed to create income but don’t. And I don’t spend time on the things I most want to do. I know what needs to change but seem stuck without the time or resources to make them.
And I’ve felt stuck spiritually…disconnected, you know? And I’ve not found a way to reconnect.
But I know saying “I’m stuck” is just an excuse. It’s easier to say I’m stuck and stay stuck than to change the situation. My stuckness is my fault. I can’t blame it on anyone or anything—even though, I admit, I like to do that.
How will I get unstuck? I will take steps toward what I want…my goals and dreams. Taking action—doing something—will get me unstuck in every case. (In fact, I’ve already made a few steps, and I’m feeling better already!)
Turn the Lid
Think of getting unstuck like opening a tightly sealed lid on a jar. You try to twist it open, and nothing happens. You try again…nothing. You bang the edge of the lid on the counter and twist…no luck. And so you try one more time, applying as much pressure as you can, and suddenly you hear a “pop.” So you twist again, and the lid turns just a little. You twist again, and it moves some more. One more try and the lid easily turns until you can remove it from the jar.
Its the same with the stuck places in your life. Apply some force; twist…hard. Do something to loosen up the situations. Move just a bit. Take a step, and taking additional action will feel easier. The change will happen faster, and, before you know it, you’ll be free of the stuck place.
Face the Truth
You know it’s true. You are making excuses and blaming others for whatever feels stuck in your life. (It’s your husband’s, boss’s, children’s, doctor’s, body’s fault, right?) It’s all about you and your unwillingness to take action…to make a change.
The truth is this: You have total control over whether or not you remain stuck. You are the only one who can help you break free.
If you feel stuck in a job, find a new position.
If you believe you are stuck in a relationship, go to counseling, change how you think about or deal with the other person, or get out.
If you think you are stuck at your current weight or fitness level, hire a personal trainer, start a new exercise routine, or eat smaller portions at mealtime.
But if you don’t do something different, nothing will change. You will continue to complain about being stuck and reinforce your belief that stuckness is your constant problem. But why would you want to do that?
Instead, take a step…even a small one…toward what you want—toward that unstuck place you’d like to be.
How to Get Unstuck
Ready to get unstuck? First, analyze your life. List the areas in which you feel or think you are stuck.
Next, visualize what “unstuck look like.” Would it be a new relationship or divorce, feeling and looking fit, or a job doing what you love? What is your goal?Where would you go or who would you be if you could get yourself unstuck?
Now, develop an action plan. (Remember: Taking action is the only way to get unstuck.) What three-to-five steps would get you unstuck and moving forward? Write them down.
And put those steps on your calendar. Give yourself deadlines for taking the steps you’ve identified.
Now you know how to get unstuck. So no more excuses. Start taking steps toward what you want. Pull your feet out of the mud (or quicksand) and go! If you are moving forward, you can’t remain stuck.
How are you going to get unstuck?
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