One of the most important love affairs you can have is with yourself. The more you love yourself, the more love you have for others. That means you increase your capacity to be in and sustain a loving relationship.
It doesn’t matter if you would like to generate more love for someone of the opposite sex or for your children, parents, coworkers, or friends. The more you open your heart to you, the more you will open your hear to them.
You may hold negative thoughts and beliefs about yourself, such as:
- I’m unlovable.
- I’m ugly.
- I’m stupid.
- I’m unworthy.
- I’m a bad person.
- My body is gross.
These indicate how you judge—and dislike—yourself.
Why should anyone judge you differently than you judge yourself? In fact, the way you feel about yourself often influences how others feel about you. Therefore, love yourself as much as possible because the more you love yourself, the more others will love you as well.
The first way to begin loving yourself is in the bathroom mirror. Look at your reflection. Tell yourself:
- I love you.
- I appreciate you.
- You are beautiful.
- You are worthy.
- You are lovable.
- You have a sexy body.
- You are smart.
- You are attractive.
- You have a lot to offer others.
- You are funny.
- You are sweet.
And so on.
Begin to speak to yourself in a loving and accepting manner. As you do, you can process any negativity that comes back at you. Your mind will refute these statements at first. So ask yourself, “Are the old thoughts and beliefs true? Why do I believe them?”
You probably believe them because someone else told you to do so. A parent, teacher, or former significant other told you you were ugly, undeserving, stupid, or unlovable. What makes them an authority? Did they really know you?
More important, do you want to perpetuate their beliefs by continuing to believe them? Of course, you don’t.
Realize that when you were young and impressionable, you chose to believe these negative things,. Now choose to believe something different. Choose to believe that you are, indeed, infinitely lovable.
Love yourself.
The more you love yourself, the more love you’ll have to give, and the more others will love you. The fact that you feel good about yourself will make them feel good about you as well. They’ll see you the way you do!
What stops you from loving yourself?
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