There’s a simple reason why it feels so darn hard to manifest what you want. You don’t actually know what you want, and your lack of clarity causes you to send confusing messages to the Universe. As a result, the Universe doesn’t know what you want and sends nothing—or a lot of things you don’t really want (or think you want).
To manifest when you want, you have to tell the Universe—God, Source, Creator—clearly what you want. That means you have to:
- Be extremely clear about what you want.
- Have the ability to express your desire.
- Remove any conflicting thoughts related to what you want.
What You Think You Want
Maybe you think you want a relationship, more money, or a healthier body. Great! That’s a super start.
But you have to be more specific than that.
Get clear about what type of relationship you want and with what kind of person. Or decide how much money you want sitting in the bank by the end of the year. And determine precisely what you want to weigh or what physical challenges you want to heal.
Don’t Be Tied to the Details
Even though you do, indeed, need to be specific about what you want, you can’t be tied to the details. Allow the Universe to bring you what is best for you—and remain open to what shows up.
I ask for what I want—in meditation, using visualization, or through prayer—and then say, “This or something better is now coming to me for the highest good of all concerned.”
Other ways to say this are: “This or something better is now coming to me for my highest good and the highest good of all concerned” or “I trust that what I desire is coming to me at the perfect time and in the perfect way for my highest good.”
Then watch and wait.
Don’t discount the little things that show up or the things that show up that don’t look exactly the way you imagined them. Instead, acknowledge them. Then, express gratitude for even the smallest manifestation.
Your gratitude tells the Universe that you appreciate what you received. That helps you receive more of what you want.
Create an Action Plan
Like setting goals, though, you need an action plan for making your desires manifest. As they say, without action, a goal is just a dream.
Yes…You may want your desires fulfilled magically. And, yes…the Universe does deliver, but you have to do your part, too.
So create a plan. What will you do to demonstrate that you want what you say you want?
The late Stuart Wilde talked about making affirmations of action. You can affirm that you already have something, feel as if you have it, visualize it. Still, nothing happens…until you show the Universe you genuinely want it. Do something that helps you manifest what you want.
Join a dating service. Ask for a raise or apply for a new job. Go to the doctor, or hire a personal trainer.
What You Really Want
Beyond clarity on what you want and an action plan, you have to uncover the thoughts, beliefs, and emotions that conflict with your desire. For example, if you say you want more money but believe money is the root of all evil, you’ll struggle to increase your income. After all, you want to stay as far away from evil as possible, right? So, although you claim to want more money, you don’t—not if it exposes you to evil inclinations.
You think you’re asking clearly—“I want more money!” But the Universe says, “I’m not sure you do…” Or “I can’t give you both money and no money.”
Then you are surprised by the fact that no matter what you say or do, your income level does not rise.
It’s not surprising at all.
Your Subconscious Blocks
The blocks to getting what you want are created by your subconscious thoughts. Many cognitive neuroscientists have conducted studies that demonstrated that only five percent of our cognitive activities are conscious. That means the remaining 95 percent are subconscious or non-conscious. We aren’t aware of them at all.
If you imagine an iceberg, the small percentage that can be seen above the water is your conscious mind. The rest, which lies unseen under the water, is your subconscious mind.
You have no awareness of most of the thoughts that block your ability to manifest. And that’s a problem…a big problem, especially since you think around 6,000 thoughts per day.
If you can’t know this part of your mind, how can you discover the thoughts that stop you from having what you want? You have to make your subconscious thoughts conscious.
Make Subconscious Thoughts Conscious
To accomplish this task, you have to bring your subconscious thoughts to the surface. Think of this as moving them from the submerged part of the iceberg to the visible part.
You might do this with a therapist using any number of tools, like EMDR or hypnosis. However, a simple exercise can help you become more aware of the thought blocks that deter your manifestation ability. All you need is a piece of paper and a pen—and a willingness to work the process over days and weeks.
The exercise is called The Response Column, and I learned it when I was involved with an organization called The Loving Relationships Training.
The Response Column
To perform this exercise, take a piece of paper and draw a line down the middle. At the top of the left column, write the word “affirmation.” On top of the right column, write the word “response.”
Now, choose a desire you have, like “I want to earn $100,000 per year.” Turn that desire into an affirmation that clearly states that you already have what you want. For instance, you might use a statement like, “I now earn $100,000 per year.” If you’re going to be less specific, try, “I now have all the money I need to live comfortably and happily” or “Increasing amounts of money flow to me easily and effortlessly every day.”
You get the idea. Choose a positive declarative statement about already having manifested your desire. This is your affirmation.
Clear Away Your Negative Thoughts
Write your affirmation in the left-hand column of the piece of paper. As soon as you do so, your mind will produce a response. Write it down in the right-hand column.
Don’t overthink the response. Don’t analyze it. Just write it down.
Sticking with the money example, your response might be, “That’s not true.”
Write the affirmation again. Maybe this time, the response is, “You’ll never earn that much money” or “Who are you trying to fool?”
And the next time: “Managing that amount of money will feel stressful.”
And then: You don’t know how to manage that much money.”
You just uncovered a few subconscious thoughts—you think managing money is stressful and that you don’t have the ability to manage money. These thoughts conflict with your desire to have more money. Therefore, the Universe doesn’t deliver it. You block your own ability to manifest the money you are asking to receive.
The good news is that your subconscious thoughts are revealing themselves. And that’s what you want. As they do, they become conscious thoughts. And you can clear them away—maybe with a separate affirmation/response column exercise. Eventually, they will stop opposing your positive affirmation.
Just continue on with the process until you run out of responses, or they all come back positive, like, “Yes, I do!” or “Yes, that’s true!”
Don’t expect this to happen after one try, though. That submerged portion of the iceberg is huge and holds a lot of thoughts about just about everything. And you may, indeed, need to repeat the exercise with some of the negative thoughts (responses).
Clear Messaging Makes Manifestation Possible
Whether you believe in the Law of Attraction or not, the fact remains that it’s almost imposing to create anything in your life if you aren’t clear about what you want. You also need to remove any psychological blocks to creating what you want.
Try the tips outlined above:
- Ask clearly.
- Be specific.
- Don’t be tied to the details.
- Ask to receive what is for your highest good.
- Pay attention and be open to what shows up.
- Clear out unconscious thoughts.
You are always creating something—even if its a creation the stems from subconscious desires. Manifestation happens all the time.
Don’t believe me? Take an honest look at your life. Then consider what you think about most often. You’ll see that you are a powerful manifestor.
You may not think you want what you have, but, on some level, you do, indeed, want it. Maybe one of your subconscious thoughts created it, or your lack of clarity brought it into your experience.
The Universe always responds to your requests. So be clear and precise when asking.
Do you have enough clarity about what you want to give the Universe a clear message? Share your thoughts in a comment below. And please share this post with someone who might benefit from reading it.
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