If you find it challenging to become the person you want to be, consider developing an alter ego. This “alternative self’ might be just what you need to begin showing up in life with the characteristics, behaviors, and mindsets you desire—and know you need to succeed.
Simply defined, your ego is that portion of your personality experienced as the “self” or “I.” It is the conscious mind or consciousness of your own identity that distinguishes itself from others and the external world.
Your alter ego is a different version of yourself. While some might consider it a random personality, you can choose your alter ego. And, if you intentionally create an alter ego that helps you achieve the desired results, you will find yourself achieving them much more quickly.
I talk a lot about identity and choosing who you want to be with my coaching clients and members of the Inspired Creator Community. This concept is not that different from choosing an alter ego. However, an identity is something you become or are already. You can choose who you want to be—such as someone who is committed, loving, cheerful, health-conscious, or financially prosperous—and that is who you are. From the moment you make that decision, you are that person. Yet, you don’t show up as that identity sometimes or in certain situations, but always.
On the other hand, an alter ego is a different version of yourself that you step into when necessary or desired. Seen from this perspective, an alter ego is situational. For instance, if you want to be more professional, you might use your alter ego only when you go to work. You might even give that alter ego a name, like Professional Pam or Paul.
Show Up as Your Alternate Self
If you have a goal you want to achieve, decide what type of person would be able to get that result. That person becomes your alternate self because it is the alter ego you need to succeed.
Then, write down all the characteristics of that alter ego—what this person looks and dresses like, how they behave and speak, how they carry themselves and deal with others, and their habits and mindsets. When it comes time to be that alter ego, take on all their characteristics. For example, become Professional Pam or Paul.
When you no longer need your alter ego, drop it. Instead, become who you are “normally.” For instance, when you leave work, go back to being “just” Pam or Paul. Put the alter ego away and return to your true identity.
Why Bother with an Alter Ego?
So why bother with an alter ego? It can be a practical first step toward changing your identity. Each time you don the characteristics of your alter ego, you get to practice being that type of person.
After a while, being your alter ego becomes habitual. You might even discover you have become that type of person. Or, at the least, you are that person in the situations where it is appropriate. For example, every time you go to work, you are Professional Pam or Paul. Knowing you are headed to the office, you dress the way your alter ego dresses. Once in the office, you think and behave in alignment with that alternative self.
So, while I don’t believe an alter ego changes your identity per se, it will allow you to choose who to be in certain situations—like at work. However, your choice of identity crosses the lines of all life arenas.
For example, if you choose to be a committed person, you will be committed in relationships, at work, with your health, and in your habits. Even Professional Pam or Paul will be committed because you are a committed person.
But you won’t be professional all the time. Professional Pam or Paul will only show up when you are in a professional situation.
Your Alter Ego Helps You Manifest
If you are clear about what you want to create in your life, an alter ego also can help manifest your dreams or achieve your goals. After all, if you need to be a particular type of person to do the things necessary to have what you desire, your alter ego is just the ticket!
You change energetically as you don your alter ego. This is especially true if you show up how you would every day once your dreams have become a reality. So the more often you put out that vibration, the higher the chances of manifesting your desires. This is the basic premise behind the Law of Attraction.
Create an alter ego that is a version of yourself that already has your dreams realized. Then, show up as the person—someone no longer worried about not having your dreams come true but who knows they have already come true. Live into that reality.
Even better…become that person. Be a person who has already realized your dreams. Choose that identity.
How to Create Your Alter Ego
If you’d like to create an alter ego, here are a few tips.
First, visualize the person you know you need to be to accomplish your goals or manifest your dreams.
Next, compose a description of that alternate self. You can use the following questions to help you uncover the details.
- What do you do each day when you wake up?
- How do you spend your time?
- How do you handle or spend your money?
- Who are your friends or with whom do you spend time?
- How do you behave or interact with people?
- What do you do in your free time?
- What do you believe?
- What are your values?
- How do you eat or exercise?
- How do you feel?
- How do you talk to yourself?
- What do you think?
- What are your habits?
- What are your strong points?
Finally, when your alter ego description is complete, read it three times a day. In particular, read it before you do anything requiring you to show up as that alter ego to succeed. For instance, read your Professional Pam or Paul description before you get dressed for work. Then you might reread it before entering the office and again later in the day.
If you find yourself not being your alter ego when you most need to be, ask yourself what Professional Pam or Paul (or whatever name you give your alter ego) would do in a similar situation. Then imagine you are your alter ego. Be that self.
Using an alter ego can prove enormously helpful. It’s a significant first step to a new identity–situationally or in all life arenas.
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