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10 Ways to Improve Your Intimate Relationship Without Asking Your Partner to Change

July 17, 2023 July 14, 2023 / By Nina Amir / 1 Comment

When your intimate relationship goes south, it’s easy to blame the other person and insist they need to change. But you can’t force anyone to change…except yourself. I’m no stranger to failing intimate relationships. My marriage struggled for a decade or more. I felt confident the only solution was for my husband to change or …

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Healthy Relationships Require Both People to Work on Themselves

February 21, 2022 June 15, 2022 / By Nina Amir / 4 Comments

In personal and spiritual growth circles, it’s a pretty common phenomenon for couples to split up. The reason is simple: only one partner is doing the internal work that leads to transformation, and the other is not. As a result, both partners grow apart and go their separate ways. But this doesn’t happen if both …

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How to Speak Up for Yourself

February 17, 2020 February 12, 2020 / By Nina Amir / 14 Comments

Sometimes, I don’t speak up. And if I do speak, I’m not 100 percent honest about what I feel, think, need, or want because I’m afraid my words will not be well received and, therefore, the person to whom I’m speaking may not react well. In the past, there were times when I spoke my …

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How to Use Mirroring for Self-Improvement

August 5, 2019 August 2, 2019 / By Nina Amir / 3 Comments

Years ago, I taught a class on mirroring. I gave all the participants small hand-held mirrors, but their task went beyond looking at their reflections. I challenged them to see in the mirror the part of themselves reflected by other people—especially those who triggered them in some way. If someone in their lives or certain …

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Use Your Magnetic Force to Attract the Right People

April 8, 2019 April 11, 2019 / By Nina Amir / 3 Comments

Our natural desire to be liked and, even more so, loved, can cause us to try enormously hard to fit in and behave in acceptable ways. It’s easy to forget, though, that the best way to be loved and accepted is to be ourselves…fully, unapologetically, unabashedly. Indeed, when you allow yourself to show up authentically, …

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Why You Need to Start Speaking to Strangers

May 7, 2018 May 3, 2018 / By Nina Amir / Leave a Comment

Most of us grew up hearing our parents caution us not to speak to strangers because they are dangerous. As adults, I think it’s time we relearned that lesson. Let’s warn each other that it’s dangerous not to speak to strangers, and, therefore, we should talk to strangers on a consistent basis. If that sounds …

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How to Connect with Your True Self

April 7, 2017 April 6, 2017 / By Nina Amir / 11 Comments

Are you in touch with your true self? Or do you think or feel disconnected from your essence? When you are young, you naturally connect with your core nature. You feel it, know it, express it. As you get older, however, you begin to suppress your true self. Maybe someone criticizes or judges you for …

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Monday Inspiration: Be Present When You Communicate

August 15, 2016 August 15, 2016 / By Nina Amir / Leave a Comment

Have you ever talked to someone but failed to hold their attention? The more you talk the more distracted they seem to get, constantly checking their phone or looking over your shoulder across the room. Or maybe you’re the one who can’t pay attention. You forget important details your friends share with you because you’re …

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Monday Inspiration: Act From Desire

August 8, 2016 August 8, 2016 / By Nina Amir / Leave a Comment

There are a few people in my life who tend to communicate with me out of obligation. They feel like they have to call me on my birthday or my anniversary. It’s not that they really want to call, but they feel they “should” do it to keep up appearances. Are you one of those …

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Create Inspired Results: 3 Ways to Help Someone You Love

June 30, 2016 June 24, 2016 / By Nina Amir / Leave a Comment

Video Transcript: I have been thinking about what is the best way to help those we love. If you’ve ever struggled to reach someone that’s close to you, who doesn’t seem to want your help and they’re stuck, you can really feel like you’re between a rock and a hard place. You can see that …

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Monday Inspiration: Heal Old Relationships

June 27, 2016 June 27, 2016 / By Nina Amir / 2 Comments

Unhealed relationships make nasty open wounds. Stitch them, staple them, do whatever you have to do…just find a way to close them. Yes, you’ll be left with a scar—that’s OK—better to have the scar then to have the open wound. Open emotional wounds are dangerous. They make you vulnerable to infections of negativity, and negativity …

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What Not to Do (and What to Do) on Valentine’s Day

February 12, 2016 February 4, 2016 / By Nina Amir / 1 Comment

Heart-shaped candies. Greeting cards. Stuffed animals. Jewelry. Expensive dinners. Red, pink and white roses. It’s hard not to notice that Valentine’s Day has arrived. In America, retail stores and restaurants make sure no one forgets this holiday. However, the focus on purchasing gifts and cards and going out to eat takes away from the deeper …

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