You might be thinking, “I’m stuck,” but have you considered that the thing keeping you stuck is you?
Specifically, the only obstacles preventing you from creating what you desire personally, professionally, and spiritually are your identity, mindset, and habits. Who you are being, as well as your thoughts and behaviors stand in the way of your happiness, love, prosperity, success, health, peace, fulfillment, enjoyment, or anything else you so badly desire.
You can continue blaming your situation, environment, partner, job, financial situation, parents, boss, or even the Universe, but you know as well as I do, that won’t get you unstuck. Instead, it will keep you wallowing in your current misery.
I get it. Sometimes it’s easier and more comfortable to remain stuck. And remaining stuck is definitely easier than looking honestly at yourself and taking responsibility for who you are being and what you are doing and creating.
Then one day…like today…it becomes too uncomfortable to remain comfortable. That’s when you realize it’s time to change—yourself. So you look for help, a solution, or a strategy to create transformation.
Here’s the rub: The only way to get unstuck is to get out of your own way.
You have to change. Your habitual ways of being, thoughts, and behaviors must change.
What’s Your Brand of Stuck?
Your version of “stuck” may take numerous forms. Everyone is different, so it makes sense that each person has a unique stuck experience.
Maybe you’ve created a life and career you thought you wanted, but now you’ve got a different vision. However, you believe you don’t have the time, money, or ability to make that vision a reality. Your mental chatter sounds like this: “If only things were different I could go for my dream!” But you don’t really believe anything will change. So, like a tiger at the zoo, you retreat to the back of your cage in resignation.
Perhaps you never show up being authentic or let anyone know the real you. Instead, you take on the identity of the person you think others want you to be. Additionally, you do what you are expected or “supposed” to do. You’d like to follow your intuition and your heart’s desires, but you are too afraid that, if you do, you will be judged, criticized, or, worse yet, disliked. “I wish I had the courage to express myself fully,” you say to yourself as your anger, frustration, and resentment grow.
Possibly, you would love to deep dive into a spiritual journey. You imagine accessing spiritual guidance but can’t get yourself to stick to a daily spiritual practice. You believe in spirit guides and angels, but you discount most messages of guidance you receive. Then, you wonder, “What might become possible if I acted on spiritual guidance?” But you’ve surrendered to never knowing.
Or, you have unsupportive habits you can’t break, like perfectionism, procrastination, or going to bed too late at night. You tend to overthink your options, which leaves you unable to decide and take action. Your negative self-talk runs like a soundtrack to your life, affirming that you will never change…anything. It’s constantly telling you, “You’re not good enough. You aren’t worthy, You are stupid. You can’t do it. Who are you to think you could be that or have that? You’ll never change, so why try?” And so, you don’t try…and hate yourself more each day.
You might even feel a deep sense of purpose or calling but never allow yourself to pursue it. Doubt stops you from taking action on what really matters to you. You know you have God-given talents, but you aren’t doing anything to realize them. Instead, you fill your days with busy work, which leaves no time for your life’s work. “One day,” you promise yourself. Then you put your head in your hands and cry because you know time is passing…and that day may never come.
Start Being the Person You Know You Can Be
No matter your brand of stuck, deep inside you know you have been blocking yourself from success in any…and all…life arenas. And when you admit that to yourself, you create the opportunity to move past your feelings of disappointment, self-loathing, anger, dejection, discouragement, overwhelm, guilt, blame, and sorrow.
You reclaim your personal power and take responsibility for creating your life and living it fully.
And, in that moment, you have the opportunity to get unstuck. You become free to make new choices about who to be, create new habits, and develop new mindsets that can move you forward.
The fact that you are reading this means you want to create something different…to be someone different.
Plain and simple, you can change everything simply by deciding who you want to BE, and…VOILÀ!…your mindset and habits align with your new identity. Then you are free to move forward with ease toward realizing your potential and creating your dreams.
Change your identity, thoughts, and behaviors, and you can finally get from where you are to where you want to go…from who you are to who you want to (and know you can ) be…from the vision of what you want to create to the reality of having manifested that desire.
Imagine what becomes possible then…
Who would you be? What type of life would you live? What amazing thing might you have created in 3, 6, or 12 months?
Maybe you finally would write that book you’ve talked about for years. Perhaps you would quit your job and start your own business…and create more prosperity than you previously could have imagined. Possibly you would drop your heart walls and fall back in love with your partner or find your soulmate. Or you could allow yourself to open to the flow of Divine Intelligence and your spiritual gifts.
But if nothing changes…and you remain stuck, what then?
Imagine what you and your life will be like if everything stays exactly the same. And what will you have created in 3, 6, or 12 months?
You already realize this, but if nothing changes, nothing changes.
If you don’t want things to stay the same…if you don’t want to stay the same, it’s time to create change, is it not?
The Key to Creating What You Want
It’s time for you to BE the person who can Do the things necessary to CREATE whatever you want.
Most people get it backward. They believe they first need to have what they desire to do the things they want to do and be who they want to be. For instance, they think they need to have money or time (or both) before they can be happy. Actually, you have to be happy first. You have to adopt that identity. Then, you will find a way to do what happy people do, like create more money and time.
But you are not like most people. If you were, you wouldn’t be here now reading this post. You know that to achieve the success you desire, you need to do the internal work to change your habitual ways of being.
Personal growth is the quickest route to success in any area of life—including your spiritual life. It’s the key to getting out of your own way. It’s the tool that helps you step into being the person you want to be and doing the things that create what you desire.
Since you are a spiritual being having a human experience, personal growth is not enough to get you fully unstuck, though. You also need spiritual growth to help you become the powerful creator you were born to be.
I’m sure you realize that personal and spiritual growth together result in enormous transformation. And that’s what you truly want…transformation, do you not?
The Result of Staying Stuck
Of course, you could continue on as you have—same old grind, keeping things status quo, doing meaningless tasks, and living up to other people’s expectations. You could keep on creating what you don’t want rather than what you do want. You could continue watching the pots on the front burners while leaving your life’s work on a back burner. You could remain comfortable in your discomfort. You could continue being someone with unsupportive mindsets and habits and lots of frustration.
In other words, you could remain stuck.
If you do so, what regrets will you have in 5, 10, 20, or 30 years…or at the end of your life? How disappointed will you be in yourself?
Your soul longs for something more…for you to be more and do more. Your Higher Self wants you to achieve your potential and fulfill your purpose.
All the spiritual forces in this universe want more for you…a life filled with meaning and fulfillment, alignment with your best self, connection to Divine Guidance, opportunities to make a difference, personal power, the ability to thrive in a profound, soulful way, and the unlimited freedom to move toward your potential and heart’s desires.
Imagine waking up every day energized and with eyes sparkling as you anticipate what you will experience and create. Feel the comfort and satisfaction as you go through your day being spiritually guided and taking bold, inspired actions. See yourself being passionate and motivated as you focus on doing your life’s work—using your knowledge, skills, and gifts to make a difference in your unique way. Visualize the deep, joyous, and loving relationships you have with your family and friends. Imagine yourself feeling vibrant and energetic, living with ease and grace. And see yourself ending the day, aligned, happy, and fulfilled, and living the life of your dreams.
It’s time to create that life, is it not?
Decide to Get Unstuck
So, decide to get unstuck…to love yourself enough to take new action…sooner rather than later. Choose to invest in yourself and your transformation.
Decide to develop the identity, habits, and mindsets needed to succeed personally, spiritually, and professionally. Why? Because doing so frees you…gives you the ability to get unstuck.
You are already thinking: My old way of being in this world no longer serves me. And that conclusion is correct. So, you know you need a new way of being in the world that serves you now and in the future.
And you hear your soul calling, “Now! Now is the time!”
Heed the call. This time listen…trust…and take action.
Step into your best self and best life by giving yourself the gift of personal and spiritual growth. Then you can be the type of person who takes actions that create what you desire.
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