Humans are meaning-making machines. We give absolutely everything meaning, which causes us to become triggered by situations and people. Once triggered, we react in ways that don’t serve us, harm relationships, and negatively impact situations. However, you can eliminate your triggers by learning to consciously choose the meaning you assign to just about anything. What’s […]
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I’ve been an equestrian most of my life. So, I was pleased recently to hear James Wedmore say, “We spend most of our lives trying not to fall off the horse. But that’s not the point. Life is about falling off the horse.” What a perfect metaphor for what life is about, I thought. Life
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Growing up in New York’s Catskill Mountain region, I only saw long-range views from the top of hills or mountains. The rest of the time, the view was obstructed by the landscape itself. But I remember loving the times I could see for more than a short distance. I didn’t realize, though, how much I
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I don’t like being called a “control freak.” If I’m being honest, though, I have to admit I like to feel in control. Yet, trying to control everything all the time is hard, and most of us want things to be easy. I know I do. So, I’ve stopped trying to control everything. Instead, I
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I’ve never liked goodbyes. Maybe it’s because my father died suddenly when I was seven, and neither he nor I got to say goodbye. Or perhaps I simply avoid the inevitable pain that comes with leave-taking. But each time I don’t say goodbye, I cheat myself out of fully experiencing life. Goodbyes are inevitable. Yes,
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At the beginning of January, you dream about and take action toward whatever you want to create in the New Year—your New Year goals. You imagine all your desires fulfilled, but as the months pass, your frustration mounts because your desires remain unfulfilled. The reason is simple: you have not made room for anything new
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Good intentions aren’t enough to ensure the achievement of your New Year’s goals. If they were, more people would make good on their intentions. But, instead, only about eight percent of those who set goals in December actually achieve them. And the reason why is simple: On January 1, they possess the same identity as
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Some people love novelty and variety. They seek out things that are new and different. Yet, others prefer the same ol’ same ol’. They like life to be predictable and known and avoid anything new or different. You drive through life in a rut if you avoid novelty and variety. You navigate down the same
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If you want a deep awareness of your commitments, look at your identity and behavior. Both reflect your commitments. With that knowledge, you can then choose new commitments that better serve you. Consider this: If you often spend quiet time in nature—a behavior, you are committed to spending quiet time in nature and consider yourself
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When you make a choice, do you stick with that decision? Or do you waffle? If you change your mind repeatedly, then you haven’t really decided. Or you’ve chosen to not choose. So, how do you make a choice and stick to it? Good question, and one I grappled with recently. But I found a
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For the last few years, I’ve focused on my personal freedom. I wasn’t in jail, but I felt as if I was. And here’s the irony: I was keeping myself captive. That meant I also held the key to my cell. The world’s most successful people value personal freedom. Therefore, they place a lot of
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For years, I felt like I was wearing a muzzle. No one had tried to silence me. I chose to wear it, so I couldn’t speak up. But these days, there’s no muzzle to be found. I tossed it in the fire and burned it. And now I speak up for myself…always. What about you?
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